I'm a mirror. If you're cool with me I'm cool with you and the exchange starts. What you see is what you reflect. If you don't like what you see then you've done something. If I'm standoffish that's because you are.
Playing well with others is important – not being too flashy just keeping good time and of course coming up with cool beats. A good snare drum kick drum high hat. Just getting good at the hand feet coordination.
